Manarocks wrote:Matthew wrote:Red13JoePa wrote:I'm sorry that you think 70,000 mexicans chanting Osama at 11 Americans is "all part of the fun."
Oh...here we go...the victim card has officially been laid on the table....
Red - maybe I'm just detached from my feelings in some weird British way but I NEVER get offended by jokes. Just because I find tasteless and inappropriuate footballs chants quite funny doesn't mean I support Bin Laden or was uncaring about 9/11.
Unbelievable...everyone has been banging on about how Manorock needs to lighten up...but none of you can take it when the joke's on you.

Thank you Matthew, you know where I am coming from.
I went back to my screen name so you know who your talking to. If you have been reading for awhile then you know that NO ONE has taken more crap then me on this board. I wont get into all of it but it mainly started just because I posted some art pics...a subject I am very passionate about, but some perceived my intentions wrongly. Dean was one and when he attacked me others joined in, so I do know where you are coming from and why you are being so defensive. Yes you have every right to defend yourself and should...but only up to a point. I could still be hashing and bashing here too and trying to correct mis- perceptions made of me but what would that do? I would come across as too defensive and the fight would rage on. I choose to let it go and make peace with those I care to. Dean was the only one I cared to come to an understanding with because I could see past his abrasive and crude posts and saw who he really is... he also took the high road with me and apologized when he was wrong and I now consider him a friend. Yes he has made mistakes and has vented his frustrations to many on the board and he has made many drunken posts but he is also quick to admit when he is wrong and takes responsibilty for his actions. He also has good reason for being defensive himself when he is stalked by some that forever hold a grudge and cant let things go. You are doing it now.
My advice to you would be to try a different tactic and take the high road instead of keeping this going and internalizing it. I didnt let my attacks continue because I knew when to defend but also when to step back. You are doing nothing here to change perceptions but beating a dead horse and making it worse. You also have to take responsibility for your part in it. You continue slugging it out so it continues against you. Sometimes it takes more guts to walk away and know when to quit then it does to remain in the fight. If you know yourself enough and can find your center then what anyone else says should not affect you and you will not feel the need to be so defensive. It also helps to learn to forgive. Once you can forgive then you can make peace and maybe come to some mutual respect and understanding. If not then hopefully you will be able to at least be more civil to one another and gain some respect for where each is coming from, but you can only get there if you become a bigger man, take the high road, throw down the gloves and let go of the past, and forgive enough to talk it out in private. If not then take a look in the mirror and at least come to understand yourself a little more and ask yourself why you continue the fight.
What is it doing for you? What does it say of you? Why do you feel such a strong need to defend? Are your own insecurities contributing to it? If you know who you are and have inner strength and peace within, you will not feel the need to be so defensive. This has went far enough, now its time to step back and reflect.....be honest with yourself for your own particpation, then either reach out to others to mend fences or choose to walk away....really, life is too short for this. Just some of my opinions...you don't have to agree with them.
oh yeah...and I also didn't go crying to Andrew which is why things were hashed out on the board and understandings reached in private and he didnt come in chastising those attacking me....in fact I told him I wanted to handle it. I'm a grown person and I can fight my own battles. If you get yourself in a situation it's up to you to get yourself out of it. None of us are children here so no one should be running to Andrew like he's our daddy. Learn to take responsibilty and figure out your own course of action.