Keiferb wrote:Just getting around to responding to all this. For some reason, lost my access for some period of time.
I have to say, I'm pretty impressed with Zan's summary. Makes me want to go see this show. Whether right or wrong, based on nothing but reading here, I always assumed you were "slightly" more on the anti-DDY camp. Not sure why, because I know you generally serve as a voice of reason. Thanks for sharing. I also have to admit - I would have never picked you for being a "Roboto" lover. That really just blew me away.
What's also been great is this didn't turn into the traditional us vs. them posturing, and other personal attacks. Some good insights and comments, that make me wonder how friggin' cool it would be if they put aside all their differences for one final farewell. I know, hell ain't freezin' over. They were just so stinkin' good together. I pulled out RTP the other day and worked out in the yard. Good stuff (including the new material).
I'm hoping the the Styx show I'm taking my boys to in October is as good as what's been described here. How long was the show / how many songs? From what I've seen in other posts, the Styx set (on their own), seems to be a 12 song set list. Seems a little light, especially for what I paid, and the fact they aren't sharing the stage. I went to an Eagles show in 2008, and they played for over 3 hours, and nearly 30 songs (including 6 of their at the time new album).
I'll try and remember the set...wait, I have a picture of the setlist on my phone...brb
Grand Illusion
Lady
Lorelei
BCM
Show Me the Way
Roboto
Born for Adventure
Don't Let it End
Too Much Time
Rockin paradise
babe
Foolin Yourself
Suite madame Blue
best of Times/AD 1958/The End
Renegade
CSA
Keiferb, I'm happy that you want to go see a show.
You won't be disappointed, I promise.
You weren't imagining things. I have been pretty well planted in the Styx camp for a long time. The last several years, however, I have really tried to stay out of that stuff. There was a time when it all seemed important. But time has a way of bringing even mountains down (ya know?). Mostly, my objection wasn't towards Dennis himself, but to his annoying fans who relentlessly bashed the crap out of the band...but...well, there is a lot of "stuff" between then and now. I am, however, flattered that you find me to often be the voice of reason. I do appreciate that. Given my history on forums, that's actually a huge compliment. Thank you.
Some people here have known me a long time, but it's unlikely that you all know where I was coming from. regardless of where you sat on the Styx fence, you have your story, as I have mine. It's not up for debate because this was my personal experience, and yours will never be like mine, and vice-versa. So here is my (trust me when I say) short version for anyone who cares to read it.
I love Styx. I always have, I always will. I am one of those fans who discovered them at an impressionable period in my life, and so, they hold a special place, each and every one of them. I used to listen to their records and imagine what they were like and fantasize about just hanging out and talking to them. I read so many articles, interviews, watched so many videos. I studied the words to every song, and memorized even the slightest subtlety to a "T." Unfortunately for me, I discovered them right at the end of their big career. KWH was my first Styx record, and subsequently, I bought every preceding album because I fell in love with their music...but after a year and a half, Styx was on indefinite hiatus, and the "Big 3" started releasing solo albums. I bought some of them, and others I didn't. My interest sort of dwindled a little throughout the late eighties for all kinds of reasons, but the love never want away. I just sort of grew out of the fascination part of it (or so i thought).
When I heard Styx was getting back together in 1990, I was so excited. Even after I learned TS wasn't going to be in the band, I was still stoked to hear the new album - because I loved all of them. I almost threw up the first time I heard "Ritual" because to me, it sounded nothing like Styx, and the "Hey!" bits reminded me of Bon Jovi (who I hate a little), but I liked most of the album (oh, the irony for this little Glen fan). I saw the very first show of their Edge tour, and I was nervous. I wanted to like the new guy, but I was sure that if he would sing Tommy's songs, I might get physically ill. Sure enough, they opened the show with Glen singing "Blue Collar Man." At least they got that out of the way... (actually, he did a really good job with it, and he seemed to fit nicely with the rest of the band, so I could relax, lol). Then, the band left Glen alone to sing "You've Got to Hide Your Love Away," (I LOVE The Beatles - like LOVE.) and he brought the house down. I was a fan from that moment on.
Incidentally, I met DDY and JP before that show, and they signed my Kilroy jacket, and though my encounter was brief and a bit methodical, it would later turn out to be one of the coolest coincidences I was ever blessed with. (JP was AWESOME, by the way. He was making jokes and
exactly like I always imagined him to be. Similarly, Dennis was also exactly like I pictured him - polite and reserved, with not a lot to say...seemed a bit "distanced" from the small crowd of fans that was there. But not rude. Just...reserved.
They returned 4 days later for a second, unplanned show, of which I attained third row seats between Glen and Dennis, and it was "pinch me" great. Met Glen after that show too. Anyone who has met him will attest that he is one of the most affable and pleasant people in the music business (except maybe to you, Everett, haha).
Anyhoo, I had been to several Damn Yankees shows during that time too - met Tommy a few times (who was also extremely cool and down to earth), and I was HAPPY. I had the best of both worlds. I had Styx with Glen, and DY with Tommy. A couple years later, I saw the James Young Group three times locally, and got to hang out with him after the shows, and that was tremendous (JY is a really cool person...), I saw JCS with DDY as Pontious. It was all surreal and awesome.
Then 1995 rolled around, and Styx "reunited." I felt a gnawing in the pit of my stomach because I knew what that meant. No more Damn Yankees. No more Glen Burtnik. No more local shows. Mind you, I did not grow up with these guys together my entire teenage existence. The Styx I first fell in love with hadn't been together in 12 years, and since I was 25 when this happened, I had lived half my life getting used to things the way they were. Imagine if your parents were divorced for twenty years, remarried different people whom you'd gotten to know and love, then miraculously, they decided to ditch their current partners and get back together. That would freak you out. Don't get me wrong, I thought it was cool, and I loved the RTP show very much.
1997 rolled around, and John was now gone, so the dynamic was already starting to change. That saying "you can never go home" rings true. The reunion was really amazing, but even a fan with the limited experience I had with the glory year Styx could tell that things would never be the same. I KNEW that. Deep inside my gut. It wasn't that I wished Glen was back (I did wish that though), or that I liked the intimate settings of solo gigs at clubs (I did like those too). It was because it didn't FEEL the same. There was no internet to discuss or argue this crap. I could see it with my own eyes. They were not the same band. This, I believe, is when I started to think differently that a large majority of Styx fans. I felt they would all be happier if they were doing their own things.
7DZ was epic. Loved it. Next thing I knew, BNW was to be released, and I had discovered the Internet. The game had changed...I was meeting with and associating with fans like me, from all over the country, each one with different opinions and ideas and theories. It was AMAZING. Like a whole new world had opened up. My enthusiasm for Styx grew. I was planning trips to meet other fans...crazy cool stuff.
One afternoon, in early-mid 1999, a poster by the name of STYXUSANEWS posted to paradisetheatre.com's bulletin board that he had first hand news that Dennis wasn't going to be touring with Styx. He said that DDY was claiming to be to ill to tour, and the rest of the band was going to go without him. This person also said that he believed this was all a ruse, and that it was actually the beginning of the end for Styx with Dennis. Of course NONE of us believed him. Trashed him left and right and basically lambasted the crap out of him. He professed his information to be true, and we just showed him the door. Next thing we knew, Styx was announcing that they were to be touring without Dennis, due an illness.
Holy. Shit.
Follows by: WTF? Styx show without Dennis? That's just...wtf?!?
Right? C'mon, we ALL thought that when we first heard it was happening.
My enthusiasm quickly turned to disappointment, even though I tried to recall how I felt when I first saw Glen perform and how much I loved the band with him, instead of Tommy...I told myself that I might love it just as much...but it wasn't really helping much. I just couldn't imagine a Styx show without Dennis. I was bummed.
So, then they announce that a Canadian singer/songwriter named Lawrence Gowan would be replacing Denny on tour (I had no idea who this person was), and I just sighed a heavy sigh of despair. Until I read the next part of the announcement that said that CHUCK wouldn't be touring either!
You have GOT to be f*cking joking! No Dennis, No Chuck, obviously no John anymore. I was about to abandon all hope. Then I read, "former Styx member, Glen Burtnik, will be filling in for Chuck Panozzo on bass."
It was the fastest recovery from depression the world has ever known. lol
I know this is long, but no one has ever really heard this story, and i think it puts things into perspective a little bit. I wasn't some 'DeYoung hater" that showed up barking and carrying on. I was a Styx lover that had experienced a litany of changes and weirdness since 1983. My fandom had been shaped and reshaped so many times, and I always ended up still in love with them as a group. So I will continue...
As most of us remember, the whole secret plot to be rid of Dennis started to reveal itself little by little...tidbits of information would make their way into the streams of our dial-up modems, and my experience, up to this point, had always been: if I FELT it, it was probably true, at least to some degree. I knew things weren't right with these guys for a long time. I never believed that Tommy's return was solely for nostalgic purposes. Sure, the sentiment was there, but it wasn't the driving motivator. It was obvious, at least to me. But i didn't care, like I said, because I LOVED STYX.
As more & more & more "factoids" and "rumors" were brought to light, the images of everyone in the band started to change. Tommy was no longer everybody's favorite golden boy - to some, he was the antichrist, a liar, a thief, a greedy money-hungry, no talent hack. JY was not the Godfather badass anymore. He was a traitor and a poor excuse for a musician. Dennis became suspected of being a hypochondriac, as his long history of medical woes were brought to light. Fans were at odds. People were downright obsessed - and MEAN. Man, the shit that got flung around on the aol boards would SHOCK some of you here. Glen was getting harassed on his personal email and IM by some jackass named "lavista," calling him a talentless asshole because he had agreed to tour with these thieves. This went on for months. Anyone who defended Tommy, JY or...anyone on that tour got abused and stalked.
I just decided to fight back. I put myself on the front line for the bigger part of 2000 & 2001. These people were out of line, and honestly, kind of disturbing as human beings.
What I considered the final straw that sent me over to the Styx camp was when some friends of mine were backstage at a Dennis show and were told in no uncertain terms that if they supported Styx in any way, they were not welcome there. Not DDY himself, but others who were close with Dennis were encouraging fans to get on the forums and trash the band. Dennis also spent some time calling radio stations in towns where Styx was scheduled to play to let everyone know that these people weren't the real deal, and only posing as Styx - and that people should avoid going to see the shows. he referred to Todd, Glen, and Lawrence as "a couple other guys" when talking about Styx. Todd & Glen were "a couple guys" that HE hired to play with Styx once before. Now, they were suddenly not worth any professional courtesy. In an interview, he called anyone who spoke with Tommy in chatrooms "bathwater drinkers." So it was no longer about insulting the band, it was insulting the fans as well. I was just turned off by the whole thing. It didn't matter to me why or how - their business was NONE of MINE, but I was disgusted at how the jilted camp was handling things.I understood the hurt feelings, but I didn't understand the efforts to be so destructive. I thought that if DDY didn't think me, as a long-time fan, worthy of respect, that I would return the favor.
I love these guys. But I have never been unaware of the fact that they are people first, people with flaws like everyone else. That's why I tried not to involve myself in the why's or how's. I was not them, and couldn't see judging any of them because I hadn't lived it. But Dennis was the only one who turned on his fans. I know it was short-lived, but it was plain as day that people like me didn't matter to him. because I wasn't kissing his ass. The trolls were essentially being encouraged in that camp, whether directly or not.
Anyone here knows that once you open yourself to ridicule on these boards, you're a target for life. I had one rabid DeYoungian send me an email in 2002 (over a year after I'd stopped posting on the aol forum) when my boyfriend's brother was killed in a helicopter crash, asking me if my BF knew I was a whore.
Behind the Music: Not even close to portraying the whole (or accurate) story, but Dennis was the only one saying "I'll never again do this to
myself," when asked about how taxing the Kilroy tour was on THE BAND. It's the little things that start to accumulate...they say if someone throws a big rock at you, you can dodge it, but if they throw a handful of pebbles, you're gonna get pelted. I saw the whole DeYoung camp as a giant group of pebble throwers. And just because I could sympathize with his situation, doesn't mean I thought he handled it with grace. I also know it was not Dennis' intention, but when he filed the lawsuit, his lawyers presented the papers to JY on the day his brother died. Even the stiffest upper lip would react emotionally over that. It was an ugly, ugly breakup. And like any (second) divorce, it was the kids who seemed to be the most torn up about it. But like any good parent will tell you, it's never a good idea to try and turn your children against the other parent, and that is, what I felt, exactly what DDY was doing.
Sadly, there were times when I was not my best self, and I posted some hurtful things on occasion that I wish I hadn't. If I could take that stuff back, I would. But I don't regret my reaction to the way the split was handled. The only thing I really have that has served me well is my gut, and it's rarely ever been wrong. Are Tommy and JY perfect people? yeah, doubtful. I'm sure there is some questionable stuff that has gone on behind closed doors - which is still - none of my business. The difference is, Tommy and JY never took their bad feelings for Dennis out on the fans. They never tried to sabotage Dennis' shows. They never said, nor implied that "you're either with us or against us." If they had, I never heard about it. (and besides which, they had Glen)
NOW, a LOT of time has passed, and I can actually SEE the difference in everyone. Much less tense. Much more relaxed. Acceptance is a wonderful thing. Any negative feelings I had are pretty much gone. Time...and all that. I'm just glad that everyone is out and doing their thing. It could always be worse. I was literally giddy at Dennis' show. Not only did he sound amazing, but his show was energetic, entertaining, and thoroughly enjoyable. Really. well worth the money.
As for a reunion, I don't know. I'd be lying if I said the thought didn't enter my mind when I saw the show, but it would just be 1995 all over again, and like I said, I don't think you can ever really go home. Maybe I'm wrong, it's happened once or twice.
But I am happy no matter what - because I. LOVE. STYX.