by askthelonely » Wed Jan 10, 2007 1:24 am
Hi Andrew,
You are right; it is your website. So, you are the one that sets the tone. That is how I see it, anyway. That tone could stand to be modified down a notch or two in some of your boards. In many of your posts, your words convey such a deep level of frustration; that frustration is possibly clouding your judgment in a lot of cases.
After reading your strong ultimatum to those that consistently hold your feet to the fire, I definitely feel that you have lost perspective. You told those two that they can post “anything” as long as they don’t bitch and moan about you. What message, exactly, are you meaning to send here? Freedom of Speech? Tolerance? Double Standards? Intimidation? What is it? If you are striving to sanitize peoples words here in your place, perhaps, I might suggest you start by getting a bottle of Lysol to swab down some of your other boards.
I have to take issue with one in particular; The Journey board IS a mess. IMO, it has been for a long, long time. Seriously!! Why don’t you start there. I, personally, have chosen not to deal with the bullies, the intimidators, the stalkers, and, on and on and on… Most of which breeches my sensibilities; so, I tune out. My guess is, by reading your example over the past several years, that you have also.
After years of pacifying those with their laundry list of gripes, you NOW want it to stop. Why now? Why do you charge back with LOADS of profanity and harsh threats? Andrew, you now want to stifle a couple people for simply critiquing your work/website. If you are truly comfortable with the work that you’ve done here, does it really matter to you what anyone writes or thinks? You might try to grow a thicker skin. Like my husband tells me, “Suck it up and take it like a man”. While sometimes it is annoying to sift through the repetitiveness of those posts, it seems less relevant compared to the double standard that you have create by turning a blind eye to the bullies that forge personal attacks on other members for merely having a different opinion. You know who those people are. You set the tone. When you refer to a member’s posts as “inane views” and tell him to “**** off”, publicly, instead of privately, you set the tone. You talk about receiving no respect from Monker. Do you honestly think that you would gain respect from him or anyone with those words? You set the tone.
There was a time years ago that I came here seeking open, intelligent music related discussion; but, sadly, I found that some of the same vicious “trolls” that frequented other fan boards with their venomous name-calling and personal attacks were given a safe haven to flourish here. Over the years, some of the names have changed; but, the tone is the same. There IS a perceived favoritism shown towards those that shamelessly and repeatedly kiss your ass. Some of those same exact members are far worse offenders than the two that you chose to call out here, IMO.
After reading back through my reply, some of my comments or opinions came off a little snottier than I first intended; most of which is due to the dry written word on a page. But, it still closely expresses my thoughts on your methodology. Whatever, it’s just one person’s opinion.
Thanks for the space,
Catherine